As humans, we are made up of feelings, dreams and wishes. This is natural and goes for everyone. Whether it be work, better relationships, or less stress, we all wish deep inside to change somehow for the better.
However, if one the one side we have dreams and wishes, on the other we have fears and worries. Unfortunately, when making plans and taking decisions, all too often, the latter get in the way, and drift us away from taking the necessary steps to becoming the better version of ourselves.
This explains why we may have a myriad of things on our minds, but achieve very little in the end. As a result, no matter how great ideas may be, eventually they remain what they are: mere ideas and nothing more.
Sadly, this is the very reason we never really get on, and stay at the same level all life. And for the majority of us, this eternal ‘rut’ is a lifetime curse. We get stuck in our routines until we eventually get too old to actually do and achieve what we really want.
This is particularly recurrent at the end of the year , when we all tend to hope for a better year ahead. The general thought is this. If you remember the Christmas song by John Lennon, ‘…Let’s hope it’s a good one, without any fears’, he talks about the same thing: improvement, getting better, and feeling better.
We all have a tendency to get better and improve our condition.
It is just natural.
Again, having dreams has always being characteristic of human beings, especially at the end of December. Particularly, in the last few weeks of the year, we plan, discuss, and talk non-stop. We are so excited that can’t wait to finally get started in style in January. But then, something happens, so it seems.
The new year finally arrives, and we don’t roll up our sleeves as previously promised. Why so?
The first excuse is usually this: we tell ourselves there is plenty of time ahead. Twelve months. An eternity, so there is no need to hurry. Plus, we may not be in the right mood either.
One person who promised to get fit a few weeks before, can say: ‘It is too cold outside to go jogging. I will do it when the weather gets warmer’. Or another, ‘I promised to improve my social life, but in the winter months there is no sunshine. It gets dark too early. I will wait for now (but without specifying when).
We can see two individuals here: one promised to get back in shape, the other to improve their social life and find a partner. This according to their original plans, at least. Now that January has arrived, and the time has finally come, they don’t seem as exited any longer. On the contrary, they find some excuses to convince themselves it is not the right time and that there is no rush.
Now, it is important to point out that,
Having dreams is only a pleasant experience.
Facing reality is a completely different story.
Despite both had plans to enhance their quality of life, they opted for not getting started when they could. They were waiting for the perfect conditions, or weather, or to be in the right mood. This is why they did put off their plans (incidentally, the same applies to thousands of people worldwide every year, just for the record).
As for the two people above, January was too cold and dark for implementing their ideas. All right. But so is February, and probably March as well. But then spring might be rainy, and summer may be too hot to do social events outdoors too. This is how our two friends never really got started. Winter eventually arrives again, and the first person is still with a belly fat, and the second still single. A coincidence? No, they have unconsciously sabotaged themselves with their minds.
In a nutshell, they were part of the masses who talk a lot and then act little. Sadly but true.
What can we learn from this short story?
That waiting perfect conditions is pie-in-the-sky. Ideal conditions do not exist, and if you insist, you may be waiting for a long, long time without ever commencing. When previously stating that we remain the same all life, this is what I meant. Talking a lot and have the best intentions, but not implementing them when the time comes.
How so? The majority of people prefers to wait for the right conditions (also financially speaking). But, in the meantime, time passes by, and so is our youth, along with our energy and liveliness.
The truth is that, when it comes to planning, we are all big talkers and promote ourselves in the best way possible on social media. Think of Instagram, for example.
We plan and talk a lot and say:
- I will…
- I’ll make…
- I am going to…
But then we either never get started because we wait for the ‘right time’, the ‘perfect conditions’, or to be ‘in the right mood’. This is how we never take off.
Here is when you decide whose side to be on. That of the talkers (the biggest share), or that of the action-takers (the smallest part). Remember, the choice is entirely up to you.
Being consistent with what we previously said is possible. There is an English saying that goes, ‘When there is a will, there is always a way’. Applying this to myself, I can guarantee it is absolutely true.
How to be action-takers, distinguishing ourselves from the masses who are all talk and no action? All mouth and no trousers?
To be a winner, unlike many others out there (relatives and friends included), is not just a possibility, but a certainty, provided that there is a strong will within you. Remember, where there is a will, there is always a way.
Like I discussed in my previous article, Limiting Beliefs: Our Greatest Enemy, if you write down your plans and intentions, you are already giving them an initial form, which is a step forward, rather than mere, abstract thoughts.
Hit the paper, and put them in a visible place. Then, specify a time. State ‘when’ and ‘where’ you will get started.
Eventually, get round to it without fail. Without waiting for the perfect conditions, mood, or time. This is what distinguishes amateurs from professionals. In fact, the former get started when they feel like to. The second get started no matter what. They have a routine and a schedule (previously created) and stick to it regardless. Professionals are not luckier, or better than you. They are just organized and determined. More importantly, they know what they want. Most people, instead, do not know what they want in life. They try this and that like a crazy ball bouncing up and down, but without ever going anywhere substantially.
As for our two friends above, they did nothing of the kind. They didn’t write down their intentions. Nor had they a clear idea of ‘when’ or ‘where’ to get started. They had a weak will and, as it usually happens, when one has a vague idea, excuses get the better of you.
If there is something you would like to do, carve out the time to study a lot, and gather all the information available. Then, just get started. You will learn, and make all the necessary corrections as you go. Waiting to have all the information, or money, or materials upfront is the surest way to keep your ideas abstract forever.
Achieve a good level of knowledge first, and then pull up your socks and do you best. You will tweak your strategies and plans along the way. I did the same when I have initiated this blog. I started out after some planning, and corrected it in the process. Whatever your plans or ideas may be at present, do likewise and you will reap the fruits of your labor. Guaranteed.
Take care and good luck with your goals and future plans.